3 Ways To Fight Resistance In Your Marriage…

Mostly it’s the man’s job right?  To fight for things and be the leader, to take charge…  Well this may be a surprise, but I don’t exactly agree with that!  Sometimes a man is not always going to be able to lead you in the best direction.  Remember, he’s a human, not a hero.  Sometimes he may need help in the fight.

In walks woman, the helper!  If you’ve ever been in need of help, then you’ve likely learned the value of help.  Never underestimate or undervalue it.  Help can impact and influence a situation greatly, and for good.

I say these things to lead into the concept that you have the ability to be a beacon for better.  You should be a part of the direction of your marriage and life.  If you are experiencing some sort of challenge in this direction, which all of us do, then you might want to consider these things that can help fight that resistance…

Fight Resistance With Ownership

When in a marriage or family, you are a part of a team working for the good of the team.  This being said you don’t always wait for the leader to tell you what to do.  Here’s the key – YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE for knowing what the leader’s priorities and goals are for the team.  Don’t wait for them to tell you, and don’t make excuses for why you don’t know?  With the knowledge of the priorities and goals, you should be able to make good judgement calls for what best suits the team.  There should be no excuses if you have taken responsibility for what the expectations are.  If you choose to go against those priorities then have a highly persuasive reason to back your decision.  Take ownership of what’s good for the team.

Example:

We personally experienced a learning opportunity in regard to this principle recently… We have been working on making decisions together and being in agreement on things before we commit to them.  I made the mistake of committing to a family trip before checking with my husband.  Although I knew his overall stance on the type of situation because as noted before I had taken ownership of knowing his priorities and goals,  I still made a poor choice.  I was misguided by some things I thought were good exceptions to the rules.  Let’s just say he wasn’t thrilled with my decision making.  It caused resistance in our marriage and we were forced to talk it through and figure out where we went wrong and what we could do better next time.  Working to understand your teams priorities are essential to making good decisions and keeping resistance at bay.

Fight Resistance With Help

Prayer is good. Pray and cover things with prayer.  Something I’ve felt lead to pray about more in my marriage is how I can draw my spouse closer to God.  I used to pray that God would help him and that he would respond.  Those are great prayers that are needed and appreciated, but I realized that sometimes I could do a better job at lending to that rather than interrupting it.  – Do you feel me?  Often I found myself expecting him to handle things better.  I would get disappointed and angry when he didn’t.  Then, I would make matters worse by blaming him and putting pressure and expectations on him that I could have actually helped with instead.  It didn’t end in goodness.  Now, I’m learning to pray for HOW I CAN HELP.  I’m inspired by the bible’s teachings, and this aligns with woman’s created purpose perfectly.  It also takes the blame and pressure off the man as the leader.  God made women to help man.  He even said in genesis it’s not good for man to be alone.  Start asking how you can help?  God designed men to appreciate help and I’ve discovered that they are extremely open to our attempts at helping.

Fight Resistance With Belief and Humility

If you’ve read this far then you’ve likely felt and believe that resistance is real.  That means you likely have felt and believe that triumph and victory are real as well.  So this is a good time to remind yourself that there is good and evil.  As we walk through our lives we are going to face both.  It’s inevitable.  Therefore, it’s best to be able to step back sometimes and remind yourself of this truth.  It helps to give perspective on what your going through and give yourself vision and a correct mindset to approach the issue your facing.  If your feeling paralyzed, remind yourself of what you believe, and why you believe it, then it becomes much clearer for how to start fighting for it.  Also, use humility.  No good fighter has ever been too proud.  Stay humble.  We can always, always, grow and do better.  Look at each resistance battle you face as an opportunity to learn and develop.

I know this is a deep and difficult facet of life and I wish each of you reading this victory in fighting resistance.  I have prayed for you in this regard as I’ve prepared this post.  Fight the good fight friends.  

live for the most!

xx kc

 

Life Skills Worth Learning… Will Our Kids Be Capable?

I know it’s early, my kids are still quite young, but I believe it’s never too soon to start training them for how to thrive in life.  As adults we know life’s not a box of chocolates and there’s a lot of learning left to do.  Most of us feel the gaps we each face and try to overcome our learning curves as best we can.  We are all inept in one way or another…  I mean after all, life’s a journey right?  We have to figure it out as we go!

 Although I’m an advocate for this obvious aspect, I also feel its good to cover the basics well in effort to set our children up to build a strong foundation and momentum in life.  I hope to foster good habits that will get them through when the tough times come.  Because no doubt they’ll come.  

If my kids have practice in life skills and confidence in their capabilities then all the better!  I think I will be able to rest my head at night.  Essentially this is our ultimate goal as parents in order to raise capable and competent children who can and will succeed without us.  If I am able to do this, I will be happy.  

It simply takes some time and attention, which is what we’re so often lacking.  As I’ve started recognizing this as an area I needed to give more attention towards, I found some things that worked.  For us, homeschool has been a helpful tool in regards to giving more “time” to practicing life skills and positive daily disciplines.  However, all families can accomplish the goals they desire if they focus hard.  

Here are some ways to approach getting your family and children started with good habits and positive lifeskills…

  • Discuss with your spouse about things you are glad you know how to do and the things you wish you would have known better about.  Get on the same page with open eyes and ears to see where your work needs to happen.
  • Be real with how you model these concepts for your kids… I would say some things need mastered before teaching, but the truth is they don’t.  Your kids can learn an awful lot by watching you get better in a life skill goal of your own.  We have been working to be debt free for a while now and it’s funny to hear our kids talk about money now.  Kind of embarrassing actually!  Kids say the darnedest things!! 
  • Make it a priority to make time to work on a said skill with your children.  This shouldn’t be another to do list for you but more a mindset to take advantage of the small opportunities.  For example, I take my kids to work in the concession stand with me at our local ball park when we have duty so they get exposure to counting money and customer service.  Another thing I’ve begun to  encourage them in is making their own breakfast.  I want them to become comfortable and independent in the kitchen, as well as develop an appreciate for food preparation.  I partner with them a little as needed, but only to fill a gap that they are a new at.  This was an opportunity I saw fit with our new routine of homeschooling.  
  • Don’t compare yourself to others.  Focus on your own family culture.  This will take work and time, but it will be fruitful to the benefit of your unique life, children, and skills you hope to have success at.

Here’s to raising the next generation!

xx kc 

 

 

You Are Not Alone… Finding Friends and Fellowship

I just don’t have a lot of really good friends…”  I hear it often, a topic that comes up in so many conversations with women.  Guess what?  You’re not alone!  

For a while after getting married and having children I struggled to feel belonging and find good fellowship with others which led to a tough time.  People kept reminding me that it was just a busy season I was going through, and it would be over before I knew it.  However, those kind and encouraging words still never helped me solve the ever lingering PROBLEM.  I longed for friends.  Not only friends, but deeply valued fellowship. 

As I started to search for answers, I seeked God in prayer and in studying the word.  I quickly picked up on a few things I hadn’t recognized before.  I realized that while going through this “season” I was actually becoming a new version of myself and discovering my identity in the world.  Therefore, of course my view and understanding of friendships evolved and changed.  

I wasn’t on my own anymore either.  I had a spouse, so friends meant for the both of us now.  Same goes with adding children to the mix.  Our activity levels fluctuated just a tad ; )   Fellowship with friends and a faithful community simply didn’t come as easy anymore.  There were lots more levels involved now.  Disappointment seemed to be hanging around at every outing.  Too many ducks had to line up in the row!?  

No one ever suggested that all these small but powerful details were big!  They mattered.  I had to recognize that these things were my new reality and my surroundings were in the process of developing.  I had to take a good look at why I believed in friendships and what I believed about friends.

 I felt god telling me to look in the mirror.  Ugh!  Who wants to do that?!  As much as I didn’t want to admit my shortcomings, Surprise, surprise, it worked!  I had to reevaluate my own qualities as a friend and learn to fill the gaps I hadn’t been minding.  The biggest reason we loose connection with friends is because we get busy in our new seasons giving our time, energy, and attention to new things we are learning about, for instance in my season…  being married and raising children.  I had become a bad friend.  I had some work to do.  I had also matured in ways and desired a certain level of friendship which wasn’t going to come easily either.

I knew it was going to take a lot of intentionality.  I began praying through it and making it a priority in my life to establish better connections and build community with others.  ( I even went as far as writing friendship goals each month and then reflecting on my progress. )  As I’m still growing in this at this time in my life I ask for grace and forgiveness a lot, but I have undoubtedly seen great fruit from taking ownership of it and working to improve this area of my life.  

I struggled with it for some time before taking it to god and asking his advice on the matter too.  Once I did this, he opened one door after the other.  It just seems that when I’m honoring him he helps me to honor others and relationships simply grow and get better. 

I write this to encourage you to think hard on this matter and take a good look in the mirror?  Relationships matter in every stage of life and if you want to have strong ones then you have to start working on them now, they don’t happen automatically.  They are just like marriages and family connections, you have to build bonds over time and seek friends who are brave enough to correct you and humble enough to take correction from you.  It’s a give and take, just like any other successful nature.  I’m lucky enough to have kept many life long friendships from childhood, as well as build new interesting and fun friendships throughout my journey.  As I grow older each year I learn to value fellowship and good friends more and more and not take good people for granted.  Often it seems impossible to get all we want and even give all we want to friends, but the little steps in the right direction start to add up.  I know I still have a ton of work left to accomplish in this facet of friendships, but I look forward to it now that I’m on the right track.  I hope that all the levels of friendships I have only continue to grow! 

In my personal journey I’ve found other believers to be great companions as they are not working to please others in a relationship, but to please god, therefore their love and compassion overflows and inevitably they have great relationships.  If you are expecting positive and thriving friendships, you have to work at being a positive and thriving friend.  For me, learning through faith about how much people matter and how much relationships matter was a big push towards making this an important priority in my life.  

Adding to this, it is also an important priority to learn to be your best as a friend and gain experience, integrity, and character through respectful relationships because it’s so important to lead the next generation into healthy adult friendships, as well as others who may be watching you.  I can’t help but acknowledge that my daughter is watching my every move… listening, observing, taking note, modeling.  If I teach her the golden rules, I have to walk the walk.  Of course we will all fumble our way through, but the honest humility of our efforts, apologies, and amends will help us to keep our eyes focused on what is good and right, and help us realign our hearts and minds to attain the goal.  

Ask yourself these few questions –

Are you struggling with finding good friends?

 How can you become a better friend?

 What qualities do you desire in friends?  

I hope this post humbles you as it did me and helps you to get real with where you are, where you’re going, and how you will get there.

Life’s a journey!

Live For The Most

xx kc

An Evening Experience At Big Cedar… Top Of The Rock

Since I was a young girl I’ve always been influenced by my Ozark heritage.  Living in the hills through the changing seasons is something I treasure deeply.  I’ve traveled many places, but the beauty of this place is described simply, “like coming home.”  It’s warmth and comfort is unmatched.  The pine designs and rough cedar smells are nestled in my heart forever.  It’s hard to put to words the impression it has left on me.  The closest I can come is the feeling I get when I drive through the grand wooded entrance of Big Cedar Lodge.  It’s as if everything I have stored in my memory of life here in the Ozarks is tucked away in this secret special spot.

I fell in love with Big Cedar years ago and I come back as often as I can to embrace my background and remember where my roots lie.  Everything about my inner self has stemmed from the simplicity of these parts and when I get lost in this big wide world I can always count on nature’s beauty and the Big Cedar experience to ground my core.  It’s a gem, a true privilege to encounter.  I’m honored to share a little piece of my favorite place with you.  Welcome to the Ozark Mountains!!

I’ve included some photos taken from Top of the Rock which is a signature Big Cedar Experience.  It’s one of the highest elevations in the Ozark Mountains and offers majestic views of Table Rock Lake and the rolling country hills.  Top of the Rock sets a world class sunset scene, which many would come for alone, but it hosts a variety of other amazing activities as well.

You can take a cave and waterfall nature hike or adventure to the top via excursion.  At the top is a natural history museum with ancient ozark artifacts (one of our favorite parts).  There are three fine dining restaurants with unreal views and mouthwatering food, also a wine cellar for the after dinner palate.  At sunset, a bag piper plays and a historic canon is fired by civil war soldiers (another of our favorites).  If your getting married soon, they have the most beautiful chapel in the midwest perfectly placed on Top of the Rock.  You can even stay in the honeymooner’s cabin which is also complete perfection.  Top of the Rock is famous as well for it’s pro golf course if that’s more your thing.

Have you ever experienced Top of the Rock?  What was your favorite part?  If not, I hope you’re inspired to start planning a trip to visit soon.  Click here for guest details!

I hope you enjoy this visual and just pretend your tagging along for an evening experience at Top of the Rock;)

Live For The Most, 

KC

 

The Best Family Play Day… Fun Mountain At Big Cedar!

Big Cedar Lodge has always been our favorite place to stay in the Ozarks.  It’s America’s premier wilderness resort for a reason!  It’s nestled in the Ozark Mountains with views that take your breath away and adventures that leave you with lasting memories.  

The atmosphere at Big Cedar is the most family friendly and we are always beyond impressed with the impeccable service, culture, and hospitality offered.  They are the Disney World of the outdoors!  It is owned by Bass Pro Shops’ founder Johnny Morris, who’s passion for sharing the great outdoors and family enrichment spreads all over this magnificent place.  They are always adding exciting places to play and we recently went over to explore some of their new grounds.

We typically stay at the lodge, but Big Cedar invites guests to come on day excursions as well!  They have so many amazing family activities.  The new Fun Mountain makes a great play day.   With rock climbing, a ropes course, laser tag, a flip zone, a spin zone, bowling, golfing, an arcade, a playground, a restaurant, and seasonal excursions with themes like camping and archery… We spent a day enjoying all it’s goodness and then finished our time at Big Cedar with an evening at Top of the Rock!  I will be sharing another post of evening fun which includes sunset festivities at Top of the Rock.  

There are many varieties of quality family time at Big Cedar, we can’t even begin to squeeze it all into one trip!  We make it an annual getaway and try to focus on exploring one or two things each time we go.  This year we adventured at the new Fun Mountain, which was a blast, but I wanted to share some things we’ve loved in the past as well…  

  • Kid’s Adventure Club which offers interactive activities and learning experiences in archery, native americans, bb guns, camping, painting, history exploration, pond fishing, canoeing, kayaking, bonfires, lazy rivers, the list truly goes on and on and on… 

I’ve included some photos from our most recent getaway below.  Have you ever been to Big Cedar?  If so, leave a comment sharing your favorite activity?  If not,  get started planning your adventure here!  

 

 

Bunks + Blue Part II … The Boys’ Room

The boys room has been such a challenge for me!  I can’t put my finger on why, but it just has been.  Not to mention every little detail that could wrong has.  Arghhh!  Haha.  It’s been a project that should have taken 1 month, but has somehow lasted 6!  There are still a few tweaks I will be working on fixing… However, I’m persevering and getting through it.  It’s finally coming together and it feels good.  When you stay diligent and keep yourself accountable on projects gosh it’s so worth it.  

The boys are enjoying being in this space more than ever and I feel that it’s just one step closer for me creatively as well.  It really epitomizes them and fosters their strengths and interests so I’m happy with this inspiring new atmosphere we all have.  I was also able to keep it very neutral in hopes that it will be versatile to adjustments as they grow! Yay.  

Here’s a look at the new update…  Hope this gets your creative juices flowing with some ideas you can adapt in your own space somehow! – xx, kc 

 

 

 

 

Why Dresses Are The Bestest

 

I keep adding more and more dresses to my wardrobe because they are just so good!  I’ll choose a good dress these days over any other article and here are my reasons why… 

Comfort 

Dresses are perfection for a woman’s body.  You can move so freely in them and not feel like anything is too snug around the waste, butt, or thighs.   They can also allow you a little growth throughout weight shifts like pregnancies…  I could have endless reasons to talk on why dresses are my comfy uniform!

Timelessness

Dresses are hard to outdate.  They are so simple and classic, it’s really hard to find a dress that doesn’t have lasting style.  This being said your purchase with a dress goes a longer way because you will likely wear it throughout various trends.  (When I am looking at style on pinterest or any other inspirational lookbook I’m always most drawn to photos of women in dresses or classic pieces because they just look so timeless and the look simply lasts through the trends.)

Transitional

Another wonderful reason why I adore wearing dresses!  When you buy a pair of shorts or capris you’re only able to wear them during specific times of the year.  When I find a great dress I can get much more use out of it because I can typically make it versatile throughout the seasons.  When looking for dresses make sure they are transitional then you can throw a sweater on it in the fall, tights in the winter, or a jean jacket come spring.  Dresses really are the bestest! 

stay simple, stay true, remember what matters too. 

KC

Discipline = Freedom

Doesn’t it surprise you?  In all my days I never considered using discipline and freedom in the same sentence.  However, life is about learning.  When the pain or lack of freedom becomes so great that it motivates discipline, it inspires change.  Changing negative behavior to positive behavior leads to betterment and a more free lifestyle.  Hence, discipline = freedom!

Consider these examples:

The discipline of rising early allows you to have more time and get more done

The discipline of eating healthy and exercising allows you to be in shape and feel good

The discipline of saving money allows you to give or spend more freely

The discpine of doing what you need to get done like chores, allows you to do what you want to get done like fun experiences, or projects

The discipline of reading allows you to be smarter

The discipline of practice makes perfection… you get the idea now right?

Once this realization is reached it actually feels good to have the discipline to make changes and work towards freedom.  There is even freedom in the discipline because you start to feel confidence in what you’re doing and where you’re going as you build momentum.  Another key thing that goes hand in hand with this is something called delayed gratification.  It’s the best, and ironically, fastest way to smart discipline and freedom.

I first heard of delayed gratification when I was beginning to teach my children and self about money.  It’s funny how trying to raise smart kids can really slap you in the face and wizen you up!  Often my expectations for my children make me take a hard look in the mirror.

As adults sometimes we don’t hold ourselves as accountable as we do our kids and that’s not fair.  We apparently expect them to know right from wrong and toe the line while we get to behave badly.  One day they’ll see my mistakes and I want them to remember me as humbly trying to be my best as I taught them to.  I want them to see me striving for behavior that leads to positivity, goodness, and success.  I don’t want them to see a parent who trained them to do one thing because it was in their best interest but didn’t have the courage, discipline, or self worth to make it happen for myself.

Think about a successful person you know.  In order to become good and especially great at whatever it was they desired… they had to fail first.  An important thing is their determination to push past the shortcomings.  They had a goal that really mattered to them and they really really wanted to reach it.  They had to get over the pain of not having what they wanted and make a decision and plan for how to get there.  Did you catch that word… PLAN.  Planning takes discipline.  It also takes time.  You have to make hard decisions and sacrifices to make time to plan your path.

Once you’re on this path by the way, don’t expect the resistance and delayed gratification to go away… no, no, no… it still hangs around.  The good thing is, you are developing some side effects from discipline.  They are called good attributes like character, perseverance, and drive among many.

Take a look at those who always get what they want.  Have they ever had a chance to build up enough grit to endure inevitable trials that will come?  I’m saying we should actually go as far as to be thankful for discipline because you have the opportunity to become better.  Look at trials and sufferings as good things, and chances to grow and learn.  Humans often need to learn through experience and the reality is that some of our experiences won’t be pleasurable.  They will teach us a tough lesson.  They will leave us with a choice for what type of attitude or behavior we will choose to implicate in our future.  Hopefully we will choose integrity.

I say all these things to share how I’ve seen what it has done in my own life.  There have been many things Jared and I have accomplished personally, and in our partnership with having discipline to gain freedom, but the best thing yet is to be debt free.  We are at the end of the race as I type this.  Our plan has been to never have a debt again besides our mortgage and we hope to also pay for that early.  I know it’s boring to talk about, but it’s so important.  Our society makes it sound so horrible to wait for things and be happy with what you have.  It’s not common to see people do these things because they are hard.   

It seems the world has been against us from day 1.  It’s not right to blame everyone else though.  The reality was we had to get used to saying no.  To standing up for what our goal was.  To staying focused and pushing through.  To taking ownership of our problem and fixing it.  Making excuses and blaming others or giving in just didn’t get us there, we had to face reality and walk the line.  

 I share this to inspire others to take heart and achieve your dreams.  This method can be applied to whatever is crippling you.  We have and will continue to face many challenges and resistance in life, but we hope to encourage and inspire how discipline truly does equal freedom.  It’s something no one can take away from you.  It’s something that can help you as well as those around you.  Fortunately,we live in America which is a big advantage and we pay respects to that each and every day.   

We have the freedom to chase dreams and the choice and opportunity to win in life.  Therefore we believe in not wasting that.  We believe in working towards your goals and living for the most in life.  This of course doesn’t gaurantee us the perfect life but it does gauantee us a rich life in freedom.

Wishing you the all the freedom that your heart desires too!

Live For The Most, 

KC

A Tip That Minds Mealtime

Our son has had a lot of health issues and sickness since he was young and we’ve battled back and forth with it being contributed to his diet.  Since nutrition and wellness is such an overwhelming topic to face we’ve tried to pace ourselves and cast a vision of better overall health and more mindfulness as we journey along.  We feel that the slow and healthy changes result in longer lasting lifestyle changes for our family as a whole.  We are also learning together as we go along.  

I wanted to share the one biggest and best thing I’ve done this year that has made an impact on how we look at the food we eat.  It’s something that I thought of doing actually in hopes of organizing my pantry better but it has had multiple benefits!  

I have organized our food in order of the food pyramid.  It’s a simple thing to think about honestly, but it helps clearly visualize what your eating (or not eating).  I just googled the pyramid one day to see the accurate serving amounts we should take in and I make it a goal to achieve those and let that guide our meals.  

I place the fats/oils/spices/condiments at the top of the fridge or cabinet, then the dairy and proteins, fruits, veggies, and grains on down in that order.  With everything in it’s place it’s very clear to see what I’m buying the most and the least of as well as what we are consuming.  It is a simple trick that has developed our habits for the better!  When at the store it helps me also to stay on the outer edge for most purchases because that is where the freshest food is located.  As you linger to the isles you start collecting things that you shouldn’t be 😉  

We also try to only drink water at home and not keep any other drinks on hand.  We get enough opportunity to buy drinks out and about so that helps us with our water intake.  We do buy milk for cereals and such as well as orange juice for breakfast.  

This has just been an easy way to keep us focused and assess our progress and/or failures in order to make improvements as needed.  

Hope it’s helpful to you as well!  

kc – xx

Women Living For The Most… Featuring Shauna Hursh

I met Shauna at Hopespoken last year and we we’re kindred spirits right away.  She is so life giving and a total breath of fresh air!  She has her own clothing business called Poor Pitiful Pearl which is completely darling, but I love her for much more than that.  She offers an interesting and unique perspective on life that will make you wanna load up in her airstream and spend the summer on her high!  She’s a true California girl living life on a Texas farm with her husband and three babes.  A creative to be envied, and a mother to take notes from… get your right brain ready and prepare your heart to melt.  Meet my friend Shauna!

 

1. Why is it important to you to be “living for the most?”

I think if we are honest, most of us can say that we have at one time in our lives, if not often, found ourselves feeling like a hamster on the wheel of life. Especially as parents, just the basic needs of cooking, cleaning, schooling, driving, working, paying bills etc can completely fill up ones day. A few years ago, I cut the cord on designing custom pieces for customers. At the time this was a huge risk. My business was built on custom work resulting in over 50% of my income and my regular clientele was loyal and consistent but also set in their ways of doing business with me. The business that I built to bring freedom began to feel like shackles as my sleepless nights proved I just couldn’t keep up with the demands. For a while, I tried to just keep swimming. I felt breathless as though every day was a new wave that would take me down before I could come up and catch air. After several health scares and a miscarriage , I had my come to Jesus moment. He sat me down like he does and gently convicted me to make the much needed changes and push through the fear and trust him. I was ready, still not knowing what that meant. I gave it to him. I wrote the blog, no more customs… and then I was done. Just like that. Ironically, my business didn’t dissolve or even slightly suffer. Instead I felt immediate peace. This was a huge faith lesson for me, because I realized it really had less to do with my workload and more about truly trusting him and giving him the things I hold so tightly too out of fear. To me, living for the most, means saying YES to the BEST thing, HIM. Sometimes in my life that means saying no to perfectly good things. Sometimes it means doing things that the world resents or doesn’t understand. Ultimately, aligning my life to HIS purposes, because I’ve done it “MY WAY” and experience has proven that there is no greater place to be than the center of his will.

 

2. How are you accomplishing this right where you are? 

Because I know life naturally leans toward busy, I have to be intentional with my time. I pray about commitments, and I’m learning to go without certain luxuries for sanity’s sake. I’ve let go of feeling the need to please others, but instead I perform for an audience of one. GOD. Or at least I should say thats my aim. Of course I am human, and I fall short. A perfectly balanced life is not possible, but every day is a new challenge to get it right. Even with our homeschool, I never thought for example it would be possible to make time to observe a bird in nature and then spend hours sketching it and or reading about it, or find the time to set aside academic workbooks to teach my kids how to sew. When they say “ stop and smell the roses”, its not a suggestion. I think its a way of living that has been so life giving for my family. Being in nature, reading good books, teaching my children valuable life skills is not extra curricular, it is the basis of what we do now. We find time to live well.

 

3. What is a good idea, tool, or resource that’s helping you in either family life, home, or womanhood?

Right Now, I am loving Wild and Free Podcasts. { bewildandfree.org }
Being a homeschooling Mom, I have few friends who have chosen this path. I also live on acreage in a small country town, where getting together with my friends in the city is an hour drive. While I love my country life, it can be isolating if I am not intentional about community. Hearing the encouragement and support of other Moms in similar seasons of life is very uplifting and inspiring.

 

4. What is a favorite book or quote that has offered you knowledge or inspiration?

Right now my go to verse is:
The LORD will fight for you; you need only to be still.” Exodus 14:14

 

5. What advice would you give your younger self? 

I would tell myself to live with less. Keep things simple. So many times because of ambitions, creativity and dream chasing, did I unnecessarily complicate my life. Without realizing, I would say YES to everything that excited me, afraid of missing out, and many of those things robbed me of greater things. Approaching 40, I have new revelations that some times success looks like downsizing, seeking those sweet margins that create peace and a pause.. because otherwise you miss the most important things by being busy with the time sucking things that wont matter in the long run. Its okay to stop and breathe. Life is short. Live well.

 

A huge thank you to Shauna for taking the time for this series and for giving us some insight from her personal life that we can take with us to inspire our own journeys.  You can find her on instagram @hurshfamily.  

Live for the Most, 

KC